A recent facebook status update by community architect and co-creative coach Laurie A. Wheeler (see her website here) lead me to ponder the nuance of viewing yourself and your life as a “work in progress”.
I realize that many of us are blinded by the romantic idea that success, happiness and purpose are just around the corner or at the next exit, as if they were “end-points” on a map.
Now I know that the saying “it’s about the voyage and not the destination” is a cliché, but hey, I am just sayin’!
If you are able to live in the present moment constantly (I do this by using reminders that train my “presencing” such as reading, meditating, yoga, tai-chi, walking in nature, sitting while sipping tea or coffee), then you will live with the “knowing” that life is cyclical and flowing in nature, such as described by yin-yang and that happiness, success and purpose are ever-changing and in constant flow, you just might actually give yourself the room to start to live in these states, as I often find that we spend so much time being hard on ourselves (i.e.”I can’t believe I just ate that piece of cake” or “I can never stick to anything”).
Be compassionate towards your self and do not judge yourself to harshly, you just might find that your path will be one filled with many more road signs of happiness and neighbouring cars filled with success, do not forget the rest stops of purpose.
_ _ _ _ _ _ _Nikolaï RAY, personal development companion and leadership 2.0 specialist Mentor | Author | Speaker A personal development companion? A personal development companion is similar to a “life coach” but is also quite different. A person such as myself does not direct or coach the development of his client, rather he learns about him or her by listening and truly learning about who he or she is. The PDC will then share what he has learned from his own experiences and pass on the wisdom he has gained, allowing the client to forge his own path rather than follow the PDC’s “truth”. This may seem like a small nuance but the results are astounding. Just as we need a mirror to see our own face, the personal development companion serves as a mirror that reflects the deep self of the client and who he or she can be. This PDC-Client relationship is a non hierarchical one where dominance and superiority are non existant, therefore this very natural flowing method of guiding allows the room and freedom for open-mindedness and humility which in turns increases the chances of the client discovering his path of happiness and success.
If you are interested in my services, whether it in the form of personal development companion, conferences, or retreats, please go to Services page of this website and I will be more than happy to share whatever I can with you.What is leadership 2.0? We, as human beings, all have the capability of being leaders. Leadership is an intrinsic quality that resides within everyone and is simply waiting to be expressed and shared. You certainly do not need a title in order to be a leader since leadership power is not attributed by external sources, rather it is fueled by an inner vision and mission of a better self. Furthermore, leadership is when one expresses and shares the best of themselves in service of others therefore positively impacting the world around them. “Give a fish to a man and he will be fed for a day, teach a man how to fish and he will be fed for a lifetime, teach a man how to teach others to fish and he will feed a whole community”. A leader is therefore someone who creates other leaders just as autonomous as himself and who then perpetuates this leadership cycle.
To learn more about Leadership 2.0, please visit the website of the International Society of Exceptional Leaders, a network of people from all kinds of professions and from all over the world who lead a life of leadership.